Friday, August 3, 2007

The divorced man

I just need comments on the above issue. To marry or not to marry a divorced man.

See i have this friend 'name unmentioned'. Let call her 'tail'. And here she is dating a divorced father of 2. Let's call him 'bum'.

Tail is into the 'I am so in love with bum', 'He completes me', 'I am truly made from his missing rib' and all the other associated feelings. Well guess what? Bum proposes.

You can imagine tail being over the moon. Finally this is her chance. She is the only one in her circle of friends that is unmarried and God has seen it fit to finally vindicate her. Cover her shame of being single and thought unwanted. The answer to all her secret cries in the night, vigils at church, prayers and fasting have finally manifested.

Someone in the whole wide world has thought her worthy to be his wife (Whatever definition of that he has). Not for one second did she think to refuse.

Not even when her parents objected to such a burdensome union.
Her friends didn't love her enough to object to her face. The just claimed to be happy for her and secretly behind her back said 'God forbid, haaaa she is so desperate to settle for that'.

People asked if she was ready to be an instant mother to 2 (with all the added responsibility associated). They said stuff like if he was not committed enough to work out problems with his ex and gave up, would he not do it again when things get rough? and to you this time.

Tail stuck through all the criticism and forged ahead in her plans and desires.

And i say is the divorced man misunderstood?
What does she see in him that others don't?
Would you as a female (young, never been married) marry a divorced older man?
As a man would you let you sister marry someone with that history?
Do you think that the prejudice of the world is unfair and we should forgive people their mistakes?
Please leave your comments and let's come to an understanding on this issue that is rampant in our society.

2 comments:

Tandra said...

Hey, now thats one tricky and sticky situation for everyone. I wouldnt want to marry a divorced man but if God ((and im sure its really God and not voices in my head)) said i should, i would. But thats me. Its her call at the end of the day.

Unbiased said...

@ tandra.....
That is a profound statement. One of the things i love most about God is the freedom of choice he gives us. I just hope some of us make the right ones.